[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/the-conversation-with-your-doctor-estate-planning-lawyer-and-family-members-white-plains-ny-new-york\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/the-conversation-with-your-doctor-estate-planning-lawyer-and-family-members-white-plains-ny-new-york\/","headline":"The Conversation with Your Doctor, Estate Planning Lawyer and Family Members","name":"The Conversation with Your Doctor, Estate Planning Lawyer and Family Members","description":"\u201cThe best way to ensure that they know and understand your wishes, is to take a copy of your health care proxy with you to your next check up and talk to your physician about it, then ask them to keep the copy on file.\u201d Everyone needs to have an annual checkup, taking stock of […]","datePublished":"2019-09-10","dateModified":"2023-07-29","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/author\/amorusolaw\/#Person","name":"Amoruso & Amoruso, LLP","url":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/author\/amorusolaw\/","identifier":5,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/12de032c04195e9c39a06a6d6eea182f7b4fa655c20e245f8094a244b5cdd0cb?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/12de032c04195e9c39a06a6d6eea182f7b4fa655c20e245f8094a244b5cdd0cb?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Amoruso & Amoruso, LLP","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/amoruso-logo.svg","url":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/amoruso-logo.svg","width":0,"height":0}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/6a01901dd0a082970b0240a4a96a9e.jpg","url":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/6a01901dd0a082970b0240a4a96a9e.jpg","height":609,"width":900},"url":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/the-conversation-with-your-doctor-estate-planning-lawyer-and-family-members-white-plains-ny-new-york\/","about":["Advance Directives","Estate Planning","Health Care Proxy","Power of Attorney \/ POA"],"wordCount":613,"keywords":["Advance Directives","Estate Planning","Health Care Proxy","Power of Attorney"],"articleBody":"\u201cThe best way to ensure that they know and understand your wishes, is to take a copy of your health care proxy with you to your next check up and talk to your physician about it, then ask them to keep the copy on file.\u201dEveryone needs to have an annual checkup, taking stock of their health with their primary physician and making sure that everyone is on the same page when it comes to instructions for health care and an advanced healthcare directive, also known in some states as a living will. When people sign their last will and testament, everyone breathes a big sigh, says The Huntsville Item\u2019s article “Make sure you talk to your doctor and family“. But that\u2019s not the end of estate planning.Your primary care provider needs to know what your wishes are, as well as your spouse and children. The best way to make sure they have this information, in addition to having a conversation, is to bring a copy of your health care proxy with you to your next check up and talk with your doctor about it. Ask them to keep a copy on file.It\u2019s a good idea to give a copy of the Health Care Proxy to each primary care physician, and a copy to the healthcare agents you have selected.\u00a0 Don\u2019t forget to keep a copy or two in your records to take with you in case you ever have to go to the hospital. The signed original should be kept with all of your estate planning documents\u2014in a safe place in your home, possibly in a fireproof safe.Make sure to tell a few family members where these documents are, in case of an emergency.The hardest part of estate planning is not usually picking the right fiduciaries or deciding how to distribute assets among loved ones. The hardest part is almost always having these conversations with family and loved ones.It can be so daunting that families often don\u2019t have these important discussions. Here\u2019s the problem: avoiding the conversation doesn\u2019t mean the issues go away. More family infighting takes place after a death than any other time. Emotions are running high, old wounds are opened, and unresolved issues, especially between siblings, come pouring out. If the parent who has died has always been the one who made peace between everyone then that buffer is gone.Having this discussion in a low-pressure, non-emergency time is something that every parent should do for their children. Consider a family gathering where the underlying agenda is to get everyone comfortable with the concept of talking about what the future holds. It doesn\u2019t have to be a formal meeting; a casual family get-together is more likely comfortable for everyone.If the conversations are taking place in a casual manner over an extended period of time, a lot of ground can be covered with less tension and stress. Getting people used to the idea that you know that you are not going to live forever, and you want to be sure they are taken care of, may make it easier for everyone when the time does come.In some families, these conversations begin when all are invited to attend a family meeting with the estate planning attorney to discuss wills, powers of attorney and health care proxies. Sometimes having this conversation with an experienced professional can take some of the sting out of planning for the future.Reference: The Huntsville Item (June 30, 2019) “Make sure you talk to your doctor and family”For more information on asset preservation and estate planning, please visit my estate planning website."},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Blog","item":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/#breadcrumbitem"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"The Conversation with Your Doctor, Estate Planning Lawyer and Family Members","item":"https:\/\/www.amorusolaw.com\/blog\/the-conversation-with-your-doctor-estate-planning-lawyer-and-family-members-white-plains-ny-new-york\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]